Transform Your Life With Steve and Pete
Transform Your Life with Steve and Pete provides practical wisdom to help you discover your identity, reject false mindsets, and align with your destiny and purpose. Steve and Pete are both executive life and leadership coaches with years of experience helping people become their best selves.
Transform Your Life With Steve and Pete
Moving Past your Pain
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Steve Chua and Pete Cafarchio
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Season 5
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Episode 16
Transformation Tip: “Turn your wounds into wisdom”. - Oprah Winfrey
Concept(s)
Consequences of unresolved pain form unhealthy mindsets and behaviors (the 10 saboteurs)
- The Judge: generates false assumptions resulting in selective hearing.
- The Avoider: directs attention away from the conflict, leading to a lack of resolution
- The Controller: self-protects and creates a fearful negative perspective of what can go wrong, restricting others and destroying relationships
- The Hyper-Achiever: constant performance. Get self-worth from achievement. Unsustainable. make you too goal-focused (miss relationships and the big picture).
- The Hyper Rational: Feeds the controller and has a fear of taking risks (faith).
- The Hyper-Vigilant: results in danger-awareness level being calibrated to an extreme (worst-case scenario). Can never relax/anxious
- The Pleaser: Can’t say “NO” and has no boundaries – overwhelmed – guilt-driven.
- The Restless causes one to look for escape or comfort (grass is greener), Busyness
- The Stickler: needs perfection to find security and value, is caught in so much detail- can’t let go (too possessive).
- The Victim: causes one to take things (too) personally, focus on emotional state, and spend too much time venting and dwelling on all wrong negativity.
Practical:
POSITIVE INTELLIGENCE (SAGE QUALITIES)
1. EXPLORATION
2. EMPATHY
3. INNOVATION
4. NAVIGATION
5. ACTIVATE
Transformation Application: Go take the test. Get the book.
https://www.positiveintelligence.com/saboteurs/
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